Matthew 14:13 When Jesus heard it, He departed from there by boat to a deserted place by Himself. But when the multitudes heard it, they followed Him on foot from the cities.
My grief facilitator said to me that even Jesus wept over death. For those who do not think it's okay to cry, to mourn. It is okay. My grief facilitator had commented on the fact that I had endured so much loss that the process was going to be different for each. She also said that no one can tell you how long to grieve or how to do so. "Own your own grief." She said loss isn't just loss of people, it can be loss of relationships, jobs, possessions, etc. But for me, the journey of loss I thought had come to an end at the beginning of the year, has picked up again. I hurt. I am sharing this with you because twice in one week it has been said to me that my journey of loss may be because I have to share it in book form. The reality, there's more to this story than many know. I have shared with all of you about the loss of my aunt, my boyfriend and my grandmother in a period of 30 days from Mid-September to early October 2016. January 2017 I lost a cousin on the same side as my aunt. This month, my family memorialized a cousin close to my age on another side of the family while a family member on the same side laid in ICU. Within another week an old college friend, in his 40s passed of a heart attack and was laid to rest this week. I can go on but I think you get the point. There are several patterns I am seeing.
1....3 African-American males between ages 41-51 passing of treatable illnesses which were simply about lifestyle change. One was already making the change. This revelation caused me to make an announcement on my social media about the importance of African-American men taking better care of themselves because it does affect those they love. African-American families have enough to be concerned about, health is probably the easiest of controllable factors.
2.
Life insurance- African-Americans have endured so much and have been so
resilient in the face of trials but having life insurance is important
to protect those you love who remain behind to make arrangements on your
behalf.
3. No one believed me months before the
collapse of a major institution. It was the one God told me to leave
from because they were hurting people, young people, those I was
purposed to help. When the collapse was announced, friends and family
who heard me finally understood. And even the church where I worship has
benefited from that collapse and has bought the building that once
housed a sister campus to where I worked. God speaks, and no
organization is above God's hand.
4. God
has revealed to me in this process the three things that are truly
important beyond this society's quest for stuff. We are to love and
worship God, understand our individual purpose for being put here and
carry it out and to foster the relationships we've been blessed with. To
sum it up, we are to leave a legacy of love. Yes, if a person is saved
and we are saved we will see them again but that doesn't negate their
absence from this space in time. For the true gift each individual
person gives us is the gift of their presence, nothing more, nothing
less. So in this, I make a plea to you that if you do not know your
purpose, please ask God to reveal it to you and then execute, do not
delay. And life is too precious and short not to show genuine love and
care.
5. I also weep because many years ago, when I
first received salvation, I didn't understand my purpose. Outside of God
who understood, guess who else did? You guessed it, the enemy. I once
had a horrible nightmare which I never forgot. At the time, I was
burdened with fear and perplexed because it was more prophetic in
nature. I saw the children I was destined to help before understanding
that my painful past was the key to helping them but was warned
(sarcastically) I couldn't help them all. And the second part of the
dream, there would be tremendous loss of family and friends around me on
the journey long before my own passing.
This
is a very painful process, and I truly understand Job's pain, questions
and even how he desired to resolve the matter. I do know that I am not
the same person I was when I walked into this journey. Just before the
loss began, which did include stuff too but God is a restorer, i praised
God for thinking I was worthy of whatever was about to come. I now know
that if it wasn't for His grace, I wouldn't have made it this far into
the wilderness. A woman whom I had never met before said what she saw in
my spirit and was a very timely word. "God allows some people to be in
the wilderness because He knows they will keep going." I have felt that
I'm not strong enough but my will to keep going is dominated by the
purpose and promise I made while on my death bed 9yrs ago. So I press
on. My journey of loss, prayerfully will never be your journey, but I
pray that should you come to a fork in the road, you will understand the
lesson and the blessing.
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